Different Situations in Life ?? !!

Different Situations in Life ?? !!

Scene-1

It is 12 past midnight and you wake up by hearing the sound of water flow. You realize that the water sound is coming from the overhead tank on your terrace. You wake up and rush to your terrace to check if you can quickly fix and close the water overflow as you are very keen and concerned on saving water. Saving water, that too fresh drinking water is a major concern for you. You can see that the tank is overflowing due to a faulty water pipe. By now, you are already aware as to how much water will get wasted if you hadn't observed this and left unattended till morning. As you are examining your tank at 12.30AM, you see that the overflow is due to a broken water pipe, which was left unobserved. You aren't an expert or a plumber to replace the pipe, that too during this time at midnight. You check for the wall tap but don't find any. You are not able to control the overflow of water. Suddenly you realize that there is a main water tap at the ground floor through which you can stop the flow. You rush to ground floor, only to realize that someone had broken the handle and the screws of the tap had worn out. The option of closing the tap from there was also ruled out. You try to figure out if there is any other option left, but don't find any. You go back to your bed and sleep, with still hearing the noise of water overflow. The thoughts of fresh drinking water going waste till morning for almost 8-10 hours are only there in your mind. You are now like a silent spectator who cannot do anything even if you want to!!

Scene-2

When you are in college, you start loving someone so much that no other girl looks beautiful to you other than her. You start speaking to her thus beginning your friendship. You wait for the perfect time to express your love towards her. You wait patiently for such a long time to express your love and finally tell your feelings, only to know that she is already engaged to someone else. It is only then that she gets to know how much you have loved her all these years. You express to her that you need her as your life partner, but unable to change her mind, even though she also felt the same. You become so much attached to her that you cannot imagine a life without her. Its’ almost a decade since you are in love with her. You are not able to stop her from getting married to someone else, even on attempting to change her mind and dedicating all your time waiting for her. You just remember her and cry silently whenever you see a couple around you, or whenever you watch a duet song on the TV, or when you see a guy-girl pair around you. You become a silent spectator who cannot do anything to make her as your life partner, even though you needed her and loved her the most than anybody else.

Scene-3

You are on your way home from office in the late evening. You are walking through a lonely place and hear a crying sound. You get curious and go to see the person who seems to be crying for help. At once, you become dumbstruck by seeing him. He is one of your old friends who had lost contact with you several years back. You had tried to search for his contact but in vain. Now you got to see him, but in such a painful situation. Somebody had hit his bike and his arm broken. You see lot of blood rushing out of his body and immediately take him to nearby hospital. Fortunately, the doctors quickly examine him and give him first aid. Since lot of blood had oozed out from his body, they suggest he needs at-least 2 bottles of blood. Unfortunately, the blood which matched his blood group was in acute shortage and very difficult to get. The doctors tell that they needed the blood within an hour to save his life. Your friend is lying unconscious on the hospital bed. You don't know about his family whereabouts and also their contact numbers.  You contact your other friends and relatives to find out if any of their blood matches with his, but in vain. Doctors there suggest that they might get that blood in a blood bank which is almost 20km from that place, but it would be too late by then. You lose all hope of saving your friend. You stand helpless thinking what you can do to save that friend whom you were searching for all these years. You become a silent spectator to see your friend losing his life right in front of you.

Lot of such incidents would have been happening in your life. You must have faced such painful incidents or may have to face similar incidents in your life. Most of the times, you just become a silent spectator, unable to do anything, being helpless like in the case of closing the leakage in the water tank, or stopping you love getting married to some other person, or saving your best friend from the death bed. Each such situation is a pain to undergo. Some of them may relate to the environment around you, some may relate to your close ones or may relate directly to your life. What do you do in such cases other than being a silent spectator?? Nothing !!

You are such an environment conscious person who cannot tolerate even a single water drop getting wasted. But you had to simply watch litres together of water going waste. Maybe you should have learnt the skill of fixing a water tap...

You loved that girl so much that you considered her as your top priority in life. But you had to simply watch her going away from you marrying some unknown person. Maybe you missed to tell that important something about you, by knowing which she would have definitely stayed back in your life...

Your best friend whom you didn't want to lose was on death bed and you couldn't save him. Maybe you should've atleast gone and checked that blood bank which was 20km away which might have saved his life.

Well… These might be some of the worst things in your life, which neither allow you to live peacefully nor do you die completely. These are all the sad things of every life.

However, there might also be some happy moments or miracles happening around you, even though you stayed like a silent spectator. The tap whose screws had worn out had only had to be tightened, which you did and closed the main tap, thus stopping leakage and saving large amounts of water. The girl whom you loved so much, unable to bear her lonely life and your pain, came back to your life as your life partner within just a year or two after you lost her. The duty doctor who had just entered the hospital, fortunately had the same blood group of your friend, donated blood to him which saved his life and you got him back. Few instances like these show miracles happen, but don’t mean that every person is so lucky to make them happen. Some things aren't in your hands even if you dedicate yourselves for making it happen. If nature wants something to happen, it gives full support from all sides to make things happen. Some things happen early and some late. As there is a saying - "Better Late than Never", if things are destined to happen, it will definitely happen. Indeed, life is a very confusing journey with all good and bad things happening together.

~ namma Sandalwood Queen ge ondu kavithe ~ A Poem to the Gorgeous Sandalwood Queen ~ Actress Ramya ~

Long Long time ago... When we were kids !!

When we were kids !!

It was a lazy Saturday morning and as usual I got up late, after lots of shouting I got from my mom. By the time I had my breakfast it was already 12 in the noon. As I was about to leave for bath, my mom gave me 2 chapatis to put it on the terrace, for the crows to eat. As I went upstairs to the terrace, I remembered that I hadn’t washed my sports shoes from a long time. So, I decided to finish this pending task as well before taking bath. As I was filling water in the bucket (saving water you know :-) ) to wash my shoes, I just leaned over the compound wall behind my terrace and saw some kids playing there. It was burning hot there on the terrace, as the sun was directly above my head. But those kids didn’t seem to notice this, or, they were busy playing with lot of concentration. I got curious and just kept watching them, as the water got filled into the bucket. They were playing the “Teacher Game”.

I’m sure that most of you must have been a part of this game during your childhood days, including me :-). There were 3-4 kids playing the Teacher game. One of them who looked like the eldest among them was the “Teacher”. He was standing with a cane stick in one hand and a chalk piece in the other. Two other kids were seated on the floor with a note book in their hands. The “Teacher” was shouting at them by making some actions with the stick and writing something on the “board”. Oh, I forgot to mention about the “board” here. There was a huge iron box kept on the terrace of their home. It seemed like an old cupboard. The children had made one of the cupboard sides as their “board” of their class. Yes, that was a mini classroom I can say :-). The “Teacher” was writing and shouting and the other 2 children were busy writing down whatever he said.

During one of the 'Teacher Game'

I started washing my shoes now, in the burning sun, remembering those days when I used to play such games with my cousins, who are my childhood friends as well :-). We were about 8 cousins, among whom I was the eldest. Two of them, eldest among the remaining group, along with me were the 3 teachers of our “Class” in the “Teacher Game” that we played. Two of them didn’t play any games and were only crying for some or the other reasons. So they didn’t participate in our game most of the times. The only remaining were our 3 “Students”, who promptly sat and wrote down whatever “lessons” we thought them in the “Class”. I loved Mathematics and so I was the Maths “Teacher”. Among the remaining “Teachers”, one of them was a General Science “Teacher” and other was the Social Science “Teacher”. We had only 3 subjects in our “school”. This game we usually played in my grandmother’s house, where all of us used to gather during any holidays. My mom and my aunt, along with my grandparents and other people were busy chit-chatting about various stuffs of life (as we do now :-\) in the ground floor of their house. Our groups of kids went to the 1^st floor and usually played there. We had bought a mini black board, just for this game itself and hanged it to the wall (by removing one of the God’s photo frame hehe :D). Each of our class was for 10 minutes, after which the “bell” rang. The “bell” for our “school” was a trrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr sound made by the “Teacher” taking the next period. All 3 “Teachers” used to take one class each and we used to go to our “home”. Yeah, the “Teachers” had a separate “home” and the “students” had a separate “home”. Poor “students”, they used to write down whatever stuff we “taught” in the “class”. During these “classes”, I still remember one instance where I was “fed up” of one of my “student” as he hadn’t done his “homework” and beat him with the stick on his hand. I don’t know if I hit him so hard, but he started crying and left the game. My brother who is like a chaddi-dost to him, also went away leaving the game. Now only one who was left was one student, who also seemed least interested to sit in the “class” alone. So we had to cancel the game :-(

Fun during the good old days

I finished washing my shoes and placed them in one corner for them to dry and came back to see how the “class” was going on behind my house. They were still playing in the scorching sun. Unable to bear the burning sun anymore, I went downstairs to have bath, with all the childhood memories in my mind. It feels so nice to remember those lovely days of childhood. One of the “Teacher” of our game has already a year old kid now, but I still see a “teacher” in her. I wish we were still kids even now to enjoy, without any tensions of life :-).

How many of you have played such games which are still memorable to you even now ? :-)

Women !!

          My friend and I were walking towards a busy main road junction. At the corner of that junction, there is a bus stop. One bus had stopped there. We were on the other side of the road and the door of the bus not viewable to us. I guess the bus had stopped for quite a few minutes, cos there were more than a few vehicles honking behind the bus with traffic being piled up slowly. On seeing through the window of the bus, it didn’t seem like anyone getting into the bus, but still it had stopped there with the driver constantly raising the accelerator of the bus. We crossed the road and walked towards the bus stop, passing through the standing bus. I walked a few steps towards the stop but my friend had stopped behind, near the front door of the bus. I turned behind to see why she stopped and saw that an old man – in his 70’s, was getting down from the bus. He seemed to be so weak that he had a stick in his hand and was struggling near the footboard to get down from the bus. Now I came to know why my friend had stopped there :-)

She held the hand of that old person and helped him to get down from the bus, made him to reach the footpath safely and came to me. It was so kind of her to help that old person.

Now, you may be wondering whats so special in this incident. :-)

There were a few men near the door of the bus from where the old person was getting down. Though they had seen the traffic piling behind the bus, with honking sounds being heard, none were bothered to help the old person to get out of the bus. They were just watching there, doing nothing. But my friend helped that person to get out of the bus by holding her hands with his. She was more caring than the men standing there simply watching.

I don’t say all men are like that. Even some men are more caring than a woman. At the same time, not all women are caring. There are a few who never care about others and are always selfish. But nevertheless, more women are caring compared to men. This incident gave me a nice feeling :-)

This is for a woman – who is a mother, sister, relative or a friend :

Kind is her Nature,

Soft is her Heart . . .

Loving is her Culture,

SHE cares for us a Lot . . .

Pleasant are her memories,

Deep are her thoughts . . .

Compromising is her Habit,

Making others happy is her Life . . .

To have such women with Me,

I am Lucky in my Life . . .

Life - Is it all about compromises ???

Life, Love and Compromises!!

Someone said : “Love is Compromise”.

In my opinion, love itself can’t be compromise. Compromise comes into picture when you start loving a person. Compromise comes into picture when you are loved and cared by many people.

Here, love need not be only between a boy and a girl. It can be a love with your parents, or your close friend, or a very special person of yours.

If there is nobody to love you, you will feel that your life is very difficult. But, if there are many people who love you, believe me – your life will be more difficult.

You may think – how can be life more difficult if there are many people to love you? Shouldn’t it be more wonderful ??

The answer is “NO”.

Its simple.

The more number of people loving you, the more difficult is your life. A person who really loves you doesn’t harm you in anyway. (if at all they harm you intentionally, they don’t love you and never loved you)

So, whatever that person tells you or expects from you will not do any bad to you. The main problem lies here – A person tells you to do something which they feel its for your better sake, and another person who loves you – tells you something else, which they also feel its for your better sake. Doing what the first person says may directly or indirectly affect what the second person says, and viceversa.

Say, for example, person A and person B loves you. Again, A and B can be anyone – including your parents, friends or someone special. Say you would’ve had a small fight with person C.

Person A asks you to stop speaking to C and never to compromise anymore as C is not a good person. But, person B may tell you to avoid any further fights and to compromise with person C, without breaking the relationship. One person tells your ego is important and the other says its not. Listening to person A will hurt person B, and listening to person B will hurt person A. Both of them love you and you don’t want to hurt either of them. In such a situation, what can you do and what will you do?? You will hurt yourself instead.

The situation gets worse if there are many such persons who love and care for you. These situations may happen anywhere – in your relationships, with your friends, with your family or with that special person of yours. One person’s decision affects other person’s life.

In such cases, sometimes the person who doesn’t have anyone to love them is luckier. They just listen to themselves and don’t have a chance either to hurt others or to hurt themselves.

A person is never lucky or unlucky. Situations and people make them lucky or unlucky.

So, the question. Compromise or not to compromise ???

I sometimes feel – “Life is all about compromises !!”

But, if this was life, why were we born for? For not achieving or getting what we want ?? What’s the purpose of living your life when you are not happy??

So, I feel – “Life is NOT all about compromises !!”

Indeed Confusing !!!