Life, Love and Compromises!!
Someone said : “Love is Compromise”.
In my opinion, love itself can’t be compromise. Compromise comes into picture when you start loving a person. Compromise comes into picture when you are loved and cared by many people.
Here, love need not be only between a boy and a girl. It can be a love with your parents, or your close friend, or a very special person of yours.
If there is nobody to love you, you will feel that your life is very difficult. But, if there are many people who love you, believe me – your life will be more difficult.
You may think – how can be life more difficult if there are many people to love you? Shouldn’t it be more wonderful ??
The answer is “NO”.
Its simple.
The more number of people loving you, the more difficult is your life. A person who really loves you doesn’t harm you in anyway. (if at all they harm you intentionally, they don’t love you and never loved you)
So, whatever that person tells you or expects from you will not do any bad to you. The main problem lies here – A person tells you to do something which they feel its for your better sake, and another person who loves you – tells you something else, which they also feel its for your better sake. Doing what the first person says may directly or indirectly affect what the second person says, and viceversa.
Say, for example, person A and person B loves you. Again, A and B can be anyone – including your parents, friends or someone special. Say you would’ve had a small fight with person C.
Person A asks you to stop speaking to C and never to compromise anymore as C is not a good person. But, person B may tell you to avoid any further fights and to compromise with person C, without breaking the relationship. One person tells your ego is important and the other says its not. Listening to person A will hurt person B, and listening to person B will hurt person A. Both of them love you and you don’t want to hurt either of them. In such a situation, what can you do and what will you do?? You will hurt yourself instead.
The situation gets worse if there are many such persons who love and care for you. These situations may happen anywhere – in your relationships, with your friends, with your family or with that special person of yours. One person’s decision affects other person’s life.
In such cases, sometimes the person who doesn’t have anyone to love them is luckier. They just listen to themselves and don’t have a chance either to hurt others or to hurt themselves.
A person is never lucky or unlucky. Situations and people make them lucky or unlucky.
So, the question. Compromise or not to compromise ???
I sometimes feel – “Life is all about compromises !!”
But, if this was life, why were we born for? For not achieving or getting what we want ?? What’s the purpose of living your life when you are not happy??
So, I feel – “Life is NOT all about compromises !!”
Indeed Confusing !!!
